Monday, September 14, 2015

Weigh in (9/12) + What's Your Story?

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I'm down .4! While I was reeeally hoping to hit that 40-pounds-gone mark, I'm thrilled with this weigh in. I had a great week, and I'm in a great place in terms of eating and exercise and life in general.

Weight Watchers introduced a new weigh-in book this week - "My Success Story". It a book rather than a folding card, and there are spaces to talk about your plan for "me time", how you felt about the week, measurements, checking in with yourself... it's pretty awesome. You might notice above the weigh in sticker is a place for "Monthly weight goal"; my leader said you do not have to fill that out, and I don't intend to. Weight loss is not predictable! Instead, I'm going to use the space to write a different monthly goal to focus on.


On Saturday, I mentioned that my leader had asked me to speak at the meeting. The questions she gave me were things like (paraphrasing, can't find my question sheet):
What motivations did you have for starting this journey besides weight loss?
How long has it taken? Are you still working on it?
How has that changed over time?
Why is it meaningful?
How has it effected your weight loss goal?
I'd written many different answers to these questions, but I ultimately decided that I'd bring notes but would let the conversation go wherever I felt it needed to go once I got there.

I ended up sharing my story, my defining moment, that led me to Weight Watchers. I realized this was the first time I'd ever shared that story out loud (besides talking to my therapist); I'd typed it so many times, yet speaking the words, trying to convey the feelings and emotions behind it--it was hard. I got through it, and I'm so glad I did. Many people came up to me after the meeting, thanking me for sharing my story and sharing their own struggle.

It confirmed what I already knew--that there are a lot of people struggling out there, but nobody talks about it because it's "shameful". Obesity, especially morbid obesity, is a symptom of a greater need, a psychological need--but society shames us into thinking that all we need is to "stop eating," "get up and move," "put down the cheeseburgers!" Well, guess what--nobody gets to be 300, 400, 500+ pounds because they just love cheeseburgers sooo much. 

I love Whitney Thore's response to that terrible fat shaming video from Nicole Arbour. The thing that resonated the most with me is when she says, "The next time you see a fat person, you don't know whether that person has a medical condition that caused them to gain weight. You don't know if their mother just died. You don't know if they're depressed or suicidal or if they just lost 100 pounds. You don't know. Let me hammer this one home. You cannot tell a person's health, physical or otherwise from looking at them." (P.S. I actually know Whitney--we met and became friends while teaching English in Korea. Isn't that neat?)

And that's really all there is to say--you don't know another person's struggles until you take the time to sit down and get to know them, and learn their story. Until then, let's all just be a little kinder, mmmkay?

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9 comments:

  1. Another great post - you are saying so much I need to hear (and believe) lately. Thank you :)

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  2. Love your thoughts at the end! You never know what anyone else is going through! We all need that reminder...Thanks! :)

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  3. You're a wonderful writer and I always love reading your posts. As you know, I have this anxiety about people judging me. One of the things I've been telling myself lately is, "it doesn't matter if they're judging me because they do not know what I'm going through"... and it really helps me. It is so easy to judge a book by its cover.

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    1. Thank you! That means a lot, coming from you (being such a fantastic writer yourself) :)

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  4. So true in every aspect of life. Don't judge.....we have to leave that one up to "The ONE and Only". ;-)

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  5. true, Unfortunately, when someone in particular said bad stuff to me, I used to judge their actions. Otherwise, I really don't judge anyone. But, with time I quit judging her too. It was wrong 'cos to me her struggle may seem silly & vice versa.

    Congrats on your loss~xo

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  6. Let's all be a little kinder! TRUTH! Seriously, being Judgy McJudgerson helps NO ONE!

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  7. "weight loss is not predictable" - ain't that the truth! But you are doing great with this, and making all kinds of progress, both mentally as well as physically. Nice job!

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  8. I like the idea of writing your own story with WW. :) They've really done some nice things with this most recent overhaul.

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