Monday, August 17, 2015

Mental Health Monday: Fake it 'til you make it

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When you struggle with depression, there's a lot of "faking it" in the digging yourself out of the deepest darkest hole recovery process.

It's not like you wake up one day and suddenly feel 100% "normal" (what's that feel like again?). It's more like you keep forcing yourself to go through the motions until one day, you don't have to force yourself anymore.

When you are at a particularly low point, you don't want to do anything; I mean, NOTHING. It's not merely, "Oh, I feel super lazy today.". It's literally, "Oh God, my body feels like it's filled with lead and there's absolutely no possible way I can get up and do anything today."

Faking it is getting out of bed anyway.

Faking it is getting out of your pajamas and putting on regular clothes (shower optional).

Faking it is brushing your hair and putting on makeup (if you normally wear it on a good day).

Faking it is remembering just one thing that you enjoy and doing it, even when it's the absolute last thing you want to do.

Faking it is turning a nothing day into a something day.

(Andie at Can You Stay For Dinner? wrote an excellent post about 'nothing days'; I mentioned it on Friday, but wanted to link it again for those of you who are not regular readers.)

When you fake it long enough, you will start to believe it and you will be able to drag yourself up from the hole you've been in.

If you're thinking to yourself, "Whatever. I've been faking it for as long as I can remember, and I'm still miserable," dig deeper.

Remember how much you loved turning your music up as loud as you could stand and singing your heart out?

Remember how you used to love going to a coffee shop with a good book and reading for hours on end?

What about when you would go on a solo hike on a trail at the park?

Remember just one thing you know you truly enjoyed, one thing that never failed to make your heart happy, and do it, just for you. Make the time. Be a little selfish.

You deserve it.

7 comments:

  1. 100% agree with this. Do you read The Bloggess or Wil Wheaton's blogs? They touch on depression quite often and have some of the best writings I've ever seen dealing with depression.

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  2. My husband were having a similar discussion last night. Thanks for sharing :)

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  3. It's important to remember that it's okay that things don't feel as good as remembered when you're in the midst of those "faking it" days - keep doing them because it's still worthwhile and better than those "nothing" days. :)

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  4. I so agree with this. Some days faking it is all I can muster, but faking it is doing something and not giving up or giving in. Faking it takes work and is awesome when you think what it is you have to do to even fake it for a day

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  5. I've often felt like I'm faking it in this depression journey. Whenever someone asks how I'm doing and my answer is "fine, thanks". But it really does help to force myself to do something even when I don't want to--but it's so so hard sometimes.

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  6. Thank you for your post and thank you for sharing Andie's- both were need-to-reads today for me.

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