Wednesday, June 3, 2015

June 2015 Goals

Out of the multitude of things I've learned over the last year, realistic goal setting is something that really stuck with me. I learned that I had/have a very "all or nothing" attitude toward life and it's something that's very common among those with disordered eating habits.

"Ugh, I've already blown my diet today; I'll start again tomorrow/next week/next month/next year."

"There's no way I'm going to meet my [insert fitness tracker here] goal this week; why even bother trying?"

"I said I was going to exercise every single day this week, but I overslept twice this week; why even bother?"

"I'm on my period and I'll probably have a gain this week; if I'm not going to lose weight anyway, I might as well eat whatever I want!"

So we fall into this repetitive cycle that just drags us down further the longer we give in to it, and every time we repeat that cycle it becomes that much harder to break it.

When I first started exercising last year, I actually managed to get up every morning and walk for about 40 minutes before work. That lasted about 2 weeks before I overslept one morning; then I started "oversleeping" more and more, until I just didn't exercise for about 2 weeks straight. When I told my therapist, she asked me why I thought I started oversleeping more--I realized that once I broke my "streak", it seemed pointless to keep trying to exercise every day, so I "allowed" myself to oversleep more, which in turn made it easier to just not exercise at all.

Typing it out like that really makes it seem so silly--it barely even makes sense to me now--but that's how my mind worked.  My therapist suggested that instead of saying, "I'm going to exercise every day," try, "I'm going to exercise at least 3 days per week." It's funny how such a simple statement gave me so much more freedom! It removed that pressure to be perfect and suddenly my goal was much more realistic and attainable.

I'd love to be able to say that I've exercised at least 3 days per week every week since then, but that's not the case. However, I'm much more forgiving of myself and no longer beat myself up when I choose to forego exercise for a little more sleep. To be honest, I've only exercised once in the last 2 weeks--Ryan has been waking up multiple times per night and I'm just exhausted. I do need to take care of myself though, and I love running/walking... the sweat, the accomplishment, the time alone with my thoughts... so tonight after work, I'm heading out for a run! (Marc works a lot of nights, so it's not always possible for me to exercise after work.)

I look at goals as guidelines rather than something I have to do--they give me something to work toward, rather than just living somewhat aimlessly. It's awesome if I meet that goal, but it's also not the end of the world if I don't. So, without further ado...

For the first one, I can use all my WPs and APs,
I just need to stop blowing past them all like I have been. 



5 comments:

  1. Great goals! I really struggle with an all-or-nothing mindset, too.

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  2. Those are wonderful goals! I'm sorry you've had a kiddo waking up multiple times. Mine have been taking turns doing that me. Must be something in the atmosphere!

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  3. Sleep is definitely more important than exercise some days, especially with parenting demands. Hope things settle down soon! Great goals for June!

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  4. Great post Christina! I have been in the past, a victim to the rigid goal setting. Being flexible and forgiving of myself is very freeing. Wonderful and very achievable goals for June! I'm cheering you on!!!

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  5. Oh I know those excuses so well. It seems I could be the one who created them. I need to make June goals too.
    Yours sound attainable, but I know at times how hard it can be.

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